Imagine a painter is asked to paint their very best masterpiece, but instead of a paintbrush, they're given a hammer to use.
They actually do incredible, creative work with that hammer, despite the difficulties – the weight of the hammer, the strain on their wrist, the lack of control and the energy expended. The picture’s kinda cool, but it’s not quite the masterpiece they were aiming for.
But once given a paintbrush, they can reach their full potential, letting the paint smoothly flow with ease and control, transferring the vision from their head into the masterful image they were aiming for.
Trying to use a hammer to paint the masterpiece is often how many people have felt as they've tried to follow neurotypical coaching advice. It just doesn't seem to help them as much as it seems to help all the other people around them. And that makes sense because we have ADHD brains. We have brains that work differently and when we try to use the same tools as everyone else, it feels like we're holding a hammer.